In talking to my cousin the other day, she was sick with "the gunk" (some viral infection), I thanked her.
I thanked her for supporting me in my birthing decision with Lil Miss. I had a c-section. There were quite a few people in my personal life and social media circle who were all for me having a VBAC. Me? I was very wary about it. I had done my own research and my OB/Gyn wasn't a fan of VBACs but was willing since it was my body and my decision.
Little back story for those of you who are reading for the first time. I had my son via emergency c-section 4 years ago. Everything went pretty decently, no issues.
My pregnancy with Lil Miss was different for me. I was more emotional, I had "morning sickness" longer, I had bleeding through my first trimester and a bit into the second trimester. I can't remember what it was called but some kind of non cancerous thing. I was scared, her head was competing with this thing, she was winning, every thing else was intact.
I was scared of a lot of things. I have read of successful VBACs and some not so successful. Something inside of me was screaming NO! I could see and hear the disappointment in those that were wanting me to have a VBAC. Trust me, I would have done it had everything inside of me wasn't telling me not to.
I have started to think that some of my depression stems from the fact that I feel guilty for not pleasing those who wanted me to have a VBAC. I'm a people pleaser.
But I look at that beautiful baby girl playing in her crib cutting 8, yes I said eight, teeth. With that smile and drool and snot everywhere and I know that I made the right decision.
Every pregnancy, birth and child are different and you always need a back up birth plan for your back up birth plan. Don't be forced into something you don't feel comfortable with, do what feels right for you and your baby Research your options, talk to your OB/Gyn, if you don't like them get a second opinion, talk to a doula, a midwife, get all your options out on the table and do what YOU think is best for you and your baby.
*I've said this before and I will say it over and over again. I am a huge supporter of breastfeeding. However, I am even a bigger supporter of the mother. If you want to breastfeed go for it and find a support system, if you want to pump and bottle feed do it, if you want to formula feed because you don't feel comfortable that is fine too. If you want to do a combination of all three or just two do that too. I can't stand when other moms aren't supportive of new moms because they are doing something different. Email me at mandyj44@gmail.com if you need some outside support. I'll be more than happy to help you.*
I thanked her for supporting me in my birthing decision with Lil Miss. I had a c-section. There were quite a few people in my personal life and social media circle who were all for me having a VBAC. Me? I was very wary about it. I had done my own research and my OB/Gyn wasn't a fan of VBACs but was willing since it was my body and my decision.
Little back story for those of you who are reading for the first time. I had my son via emergency c-section 4 years ago. Everything went pretty decently, no issues.
My pregnancy with Lil Miss was different for me. I was more emotional, I had "morning sickness" longer, I had bleeding through my first trimester and a bit into the second trimester. I can't remember what it was called but some kind of non cancerous thing. I was scared, her head was competing with this thing, she was winning, every thing else was intact.
I was scared of a lot of things. I have read of successful VBACs and some not so successful. Something inside of me was screaming NO! I could see and hear the disappointment in those that were wanting me to have a VBAC. Trust me, I would have done it had everything inside of me wasn't telling me not to.
I have started to think that some of my depression stems from the fact that I feel guilty for not pleasing those who wanted me to have a VBAC. I'm a people pleaser.
But I look at that beautiful baby girl playing in her crib cutting 8, yes I said eight, teeth. With that smile and drool and snot everywhere and I know that I made the right decision.
Every pregnancy, birth and child are different and you always need a back up birth plan for your back up birth plan. Don't be forced into something you don't feel comfortable with, do what feels right for you and your baby Research your options, talk to your OB/Gyn, if you don't like them get a second opinion, talk to a doula, a midwife, get all your options out on the table and do what YOU think is best for you and your baby.
*I've said this before and I will say it over and over again. I am a huge supporter of breastfeeding. However, I am even a bigger supporter of the mother. If you want to breastfeed go for it and find a support system, if you want to pump and bottle feed do it, if you want to formula feed because you don't feel comfortable that is fine too. If you want to do a combination of all three or just two do that too. I can't stand when other moms aren't supportive of new moms because they are doing something different. Email me at mandyj44@gmail.com if you need some outside support. I'll be more than happy to help you.*
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